Workshops

I’ve presented at Northwest Leather Celebration and Dark Odyssey’s Surrender, as well as leading workshops for Bay Area groups like Society of Janus and Citadel since 2003. Here’s a menu of descriptions of some of my favorites.

My teaching style emphasizes participation and everyone in the room learning from one another, and dispenses with prescriptive ideas of the “right” or “true” way to practice power exchange. I want to demystify power exchange by distilling tools for success into clear language and skills you can learn and practice, without resorting to obfuscating jargon or appeals to vaguely defined energies.

If you’d like me to come talk with your group or present at your conference, drop me an email and let’s talk.

Are you excited to try power exchange, but not sure how to get from “Hi, nice to meet you,” to “Get down and lick my boots”? In this beginners ’ workshop, Anton will present a road map for inviting someone to join you in playing with dominance and submission, and establishing a foundation for power exchange that’s both scrupulously consensual and deeply felt. The class is appropriate whether you’re hoping to negotiate a power exchange scene with a new friend this weekend, or adding a new power dynamic into an established relationship.

Negotiation is the bridge between having kinky desires and getting to make those desires real. Good negotiation ensures that everyone involved has a clear understanding of the experience they’re signing up for and where the boundaries lie. Excellent negotiation gets to the juicy heart of what each partner wants from their experience, and welds the overlap of their desires into an epic journey for them to share.

This workshop will begin at the beginning and give participants a solid foundation in the essentials of intimate negotiation, then take a step beyond and look at how to take your kink play and relationships deeper with negotiation focused on desire and meaning, rather than simply activities and limits. We’ll discuss affirmative consent, checklists and their limitations, limits, safewords and safe calls, aftercare, contracts, building rapport, ongoing consent and more.

What does it take to be a great dominant or a sterling submissive?

Power exchange is often talked about as though it springs from magical or innate ability. You’re either born a “natural dominant” or you aren’t. You have a “true slave heart” or you don’t. But it isn’t magic. The ability to create and maintain hot, vibrant power dynamics is supported by skills that we can learn, and that we can keep getting better at. They’re mental and emotional skills–invisible skills, subtle but powerful in their effects. Improving at them can help us dismantle roadblocks that have been getting in the way of having satisfying power exchange, or make a good thing even better.In this interactive workshop, we’ll explore the core skills that can make us proficient or excellent at giving and receiving consensual power.

One of the most powerful and most often underestimated kink tools is right at the tip of your tongue. The right narrative can transform an ordinary makeout session or a routine flogging into a profound experience of worship or degradation, communion or conquest. Learn how dirty talk can be used to deepen connection and create a shared narrative with your partner–through hot and shameless communication before, during and after playtime.

This workshop will include advice for the shy and the tongue-tied, and for those who just want to polish their patter. We’ll also cover some fundamental rules for building connection, as well as a plethora of specific ideas for verbal cleverness. Proficiency at talking dirty is equally valuable for both tops and bottoms, and the class will be geared for both.

Many of us dream of power exchange that never ends, but only grows deeper over years dominance and submission. Many of us also discover that realizing that dream is more complicated than it looks!

There are tricks and challenges to long-term power exchange that don’t come up in an evening of D/s play, or even in the first six months. We have to find sustainable ways to integrate our dynamics with the demands of our vanilla lives. Novelty fades, and we have to figure out how to keep things fresh. People change over time, and we have to either change together or grow apart. But there are also rewards unique to long-term power exchange that simply aren’t possible in shorter-term dynamics. We can do profound kinds of training, find powerful stability in established structure, and build a unique kind of trust.

Anton will share hard-earned lessons about how to keep D/s vibrant and harmonious across the years, as well as some ideas of what’s possible to do with a years’ long power dynamic. This will be an interactive class, with lots of opportunity for participants to share their own lessons and ideas.