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I’ve presented at Northwest Leather Celebration and Dark Odyssey’s Surrender, as well as leading workshops for Bay Area groups like Society of Janus and Citadel since 2003.
My teaching style emphasizes participation and everyone in the room learning from one another, and dispenses with prescriptive ideas of the “right” or “true” way to practice power exchange. I want to demystify power exchange by distilling tools for success into clear language and skills you can learn and practice, without resorting to obfuscating jargon or appeals to vaguely defined energies.
I bring my hand down hard on the tender upper part of her inner thigh. She gasps and tenses. Her whole body shakes as she fights the reflex to slam her knees together. Then: I watch the spasm pass. I hear the rushing intake of her breath. I see her body relax again, more completely […]
“Women say they want nice guys, but really they go for the bad boy.” This narrative is based on two really dumb ideas—the sort of ideas that are obviously dumb when you they’re stated directly, but that can slide into your thinking unnoticed when they’re merely implied. The first dumb idea is that women, as […]
When I published The Heart of Dominance, I wasn’t sure if anyone other than few friends was going to buy it. Finding out the answer to that question was one of my reasons for wanting to publish. I think about power exchange a lot. Like: a lot. I had all these ideas and explanations and […]