Books
For many people, FetLife is their primary access point to the world of kink, but though Fet is a fire hose of sexy images, dirty fantasies and fetish-filled user profiles, it can be exceedingly difficult to reach through the screen and make a human connection. This pay-what-you-choose ebook is your guide to leveraging FetLife in your search for love, play, community and kinky fulfillment.
Retreat
The Power & Intimacy retreat is a place to enhance your power exchange relationship, whether you’re just beginning to explore the romance of dominance and submission with your partner(s), or looking to take an existing power dynamic to the next level.
Workshops
Classroom learning can be a fantastic opportunity to benefit from the wisdom, perspectives and support of a whole room full of people who are as passionate about the subject as you are. It’s especially valuable on taboo topics like kink, where opportunities for frank conversations with others are relatively uncommmon.
I love facilitating workshops on power exchange related topics. Click through to see descriptions of some of my favorite programs, and please reach out if you’re interested in having me come teach in your community.
Essays
I ♥ Consensual Objectification
One of my all time favorite sex toys is the Fleshlight that a partner of mine carries around for me between her legs. It’s right where a person’s genitals would be, but we’ve long established that she is not a real person and does not have genitals of her own. A person’s genitals, after all, […]
Surrender
I bring my hand down hard on the tender upper part of her inner thigh. She gasps and tenses. Her whole body shakes as she fights the reflex to slam her knees together. Then: I watch the spasm pass. I hear the rushing intake of her breath. I see her body relax again, more completely […]
“Nice Guy” and “Bad Boy” Aren’t Your Only Options
“Women say they want nice guys, but really they go for the bad boy.” This narrative is based on two really dumb ideas—the sort of ideas that are obviously dumb when you they’re stated directly, but that can slide into your thinking unnoticed when they’re merely implied. The first dumb idea is that women, as […]