Books
For many people, FetLife is their primary access point to the world of kink, but though Fet is a fire hose of sexy images, dirty fantasies and fetish-filled user profiles, it can be exceedingly difficult to reach through the screen and make a human connection. This pay-what-you-choose ebook is your guide to leveraging FetLife in your search for love, play, community and kinky fulfillment.
Retreat
The Power & Intimacy retreat is a place to enhance your power exchange relationship, whether you’re just beginning to explore the romance of dominance and submission with your partner(s), or looking to take an existing power dynamic to the next level.
Workshops
Classroom learning can be a fantastic opportunity to benefit from the wisdom, perspectives and support of a whole room full of people who are as passionate about the subject as you are. It’s especially valuable on taboo topics like kink, where opportunities for frank conversations with others are relatively uncommmon.
I love facilitating workshops on power exchange related topics. Click through to see descriptions of some of my favorite programs, and please reach out if you’re interested in having me come teach in your community.
Essays
The Pleasure of Wanting
Do you live in the Bay Area? On November 5 I’ll be teaching Orgasm Denial for Society of Janus. Come join me! October is wrapping up, and the Great December Gift Orgy is coming into view on the horizon. Is there something you want, but you’re going to have to wait two long months until […]
If You’re Accused by Someone You’ve Played With, You’re Guilty
If anyone you’ve played with accuses you of mistreating them, you are guilty of playing with them in such a way as to leave them feeling mistreated. If you’re sure they agreed to the things you did with them, and they say they didn’t, you are guilty of failing to communicate. If they did agree […]
I ♥ Consensual Objectification
One of my all time favorite sex toys is the Fleshlight that a partner of mine carries around for me between her legs. It’s right where a person’s genitals would be, but we’ve long established that she is not a real person and does not have genitals of her own. A person’s genitals, after all, […]