Books
For many people, FetLife is their primary access point to the world of kink, but though Fet is a fire hose of sexy images, dirty fantasies and fetish-filled user profiles, it can be exceedingly difficult to reach through the screen and make a human connection. This pay-what-you-choose ebook is your guide to leveraging FetLife in your search for love, play, community and kinky fulfillment.
Online Education
Ready to take your power relationship to a deeper, stronger, more intimate level? Power&Intimacy Online is a relationship-building workshop for power exchange couples and tuples.
These courses, offered through the Thinkific platform, can be taken on your own schedule, from the privacy of your home.
In-Person Retreat
The Power & Intimacy retreat is a place to enhance your power exchange relationship, whether you’re just beginning to explore the romance of dominance and submission with your partner(s), or looking to take an existing power dynamic to the next level.
Workshops
Classroom learning can be a fantastic opportunity to benefit from the wisdom, perspectives and support of a whole room full of people who are as passionate about the subject as you are. It’s especially valuable on taboo topics like kink, where opportunities for frank conversations with others are relatively uncommmon.
I love facilitating workshops on power exchange related topics. Click through to see descriptions of some of my favorite programs, and please reach out if you’re interested in having me come teach in your community.

Essays
Whatever I Want, Whenever I Want It
“I will do whatever I want to you, whenever I want to do it.” For a lot of folks that is an insanely hot fantasy, while also provoking a lot of anxiety when they start thinking about the daily practicalities. I mean, how sexy is it to know that you exist as a toy for […]
Happy MLK Day! Here are Eight Black Kink Educators You Ought to Know About
1. Mollena Williams-Haas is one of the wisest, realest voices on M/s dynamics I’ve ever found. Go watch The Artist and the Pervert, then pick up a copy of Playing Well With Others for an excellent guide to the human side of kink. 2. Feminista Jones writes and speaks about feminism in mainstream spaces (think […]
Unfair
Once upon a time, a long while ago, I had this lovely hot play date. We started off with her making a fancy dinner in service to me, and I directed her through serving it with all the naked, kneeling, submissive flourishes. I started toying with her at the table and continued through the rest […]