"A thoughtful, careful approach to creating an electrifying erotic connection with another person—useful not just for a beginner just exploring this aspect of sexuality, but for the person well into their kink journey."
"Absolutely the best, most grounded book I've read on the topic of consensual dominance and submission. If I'd had this book a quarter century ago, it would have saved me (and my partners!) untold frustration."

For many people, FetLife is their primary access point to the world of kink, but though Fet is a fire hose of sexy images, dirty fantasies and fetish-filled user profiles, it can be exceedingly difficult to reach through the screen and make a human connection. This pay-what-you-choose ebook is your guide to leveraging FetLife in your search for love, play, community and kinky fulfillment.


The Power & Intimacy retreat is a place to enhance your power exchange relationship, whether you’re just beginning to explore the romance of dominance and submission with your partner(s), or looking to take an existing power dynamic to the next level.


I’ve presented at Northwest Leather Celebration and Dark Odyssey’s Surrender, as well as leading workshops for Bay Area groups like Society of Janus and Citadel since 2003.

My teaching style emphasizes participation and everyone in the room learning from one another, and dispenses with prescriptive ideas of the “right” or “true” way to practice power exchange. I want to demystify power exchange by distilling tools for success into clear language and skills you can learn and practice, without resorting to obfuscating jargon or appeals to vaguely defined energies.


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