Collar Manners
There is no more powerful and widely recognized symbol of submission than the collar. Collars are used in all kinds of different […]
Category: Essay
The Imperative Mood
We’re having dinner with friends. She says to me, “Those potatoes look delicious. Would you like to pass them to me?” and […]
Dominant Technique: Paraphrasing Fantasies
Really powerful dominance is founded on really deep knowledge of our partners. We can rule them and guide them and play them […]
Negotiation Tip: Get to the Heart of Desire
I have a bone to pick with negotiation checklists. Anyone who’s looked for education or advice on how to negotiate for the […]
Protecting Yourself From False Allegations
Do you worry about false accusations? Maybe you’ve seen someone get drummed out of some kinky community with no trial, no police […]
Five to One
There’s this pop-psychology idea running around that a healthy relationship has five positive interactions for every one negative one. I don’t know […]
Consensual Dominance
What is Consensual Dominance? The most concise definition of consensual dominance I’ve ever been able to come up with is that it […]