There Is No Indispensable Dom
I read a heartbreaking story of abuse in power exchange recently, and one particular bit that stood out to me was this: […]
Category: Essay
Some Guidelines for Playing With Fucked up Shit
A lot of the shit we feel called to play with in the realm of kink is pretty fucked up. I’m not […]
What the Mountains Taught Me Part 1: Smoke
In under a week I’ll come to the end of what I expect to be my last summer of working as a […]
Find Your Home in Kink
Perhaps the least-expected benefit I’ve gotten out of being a lifelong pervert with twisted and taboo desires is that I have never lacked for friends.
Four Ways to Punish Your Submissive
“What are some ways I can punish my submissive?” is a super common question in kinky circles. And usually the answer it […]
Whatever I Want, Whenever I Want It
“I will do whatever I want to you, whenever I want to do it.” For a lot of folks that is an […]
Happy MLK Day! Here are Eight Black Kink Educators You Ought to Know About
1. Mollena Williams-Haas is one of the wisest, realest voices on M/s dynamics I’ve ever found. Go watch The Artist and the […]
Unfair
Once upon a time, a long while ago, I had this lovely hot play date. We started off with her making a […]
The Onion of Desire
Do you crave being made to suffer in ways you hate? Do you simultaneously care deeply about your partner’s happiness and want […]
Keeping it Kinky Through a Parade of Catastrophes
The pandemic is dragging on with a million dead, and it’s starting to sink in that “back to normal” isn’t on the […]