Kink Has Always Been Political
You’ve heard of the Marquis de Sade, right? The guy whose name […]
Category: Essay
The Romance of Restraint
In between all the screaming and begging and cumming, there are deeper […]
The Pleasure of Wanting
Do you live in the Bay Area? On November 5 I’ll be […]
If You’re Accused by Someone You’ve Played With, You’re Guilty
If anyone you’ve played with accuses you of mistreating them, you are […]
I ♥ Consensual Objectification
One of my all time favorite sex toys is the Fleshlight that […]
Surrender
I bring my hand down hard on the tender upper part of […]
“Nice Guy” and “Bad Boy” Aren’t Your Only Options
“Women say they want nice guys, but really they go for the […]
Kink Shaming, and What It Isn’t
The idea of kink shaming as a thing to avoid is a […]
How to Find Partners on FetLife
Y’all know what FetLife is, right? Big social media site for kinksters? […]
Starting Your Power Exchange Over
An excerpt from my upcoming book “Ways to Play With Power,” posted […]