Essay – Page 3 – Consensual Dominance

Starting Your Power Exchange Over

An excerpt from my upcoming book “Ways to Play With Power,” posted in response to someone in the Novices & Newbies group […]

“How can I find a real dominant?” is one of the most common and most urgent questions asked in kink communities all […]

Resistance, as I’m using the word here, is the frustrating experience of wanting to submit but having a hard time actually letting […]

So you have a dominant who you feel lucky to get to submit to. You trust them. You respect their judgment. You’re […]

There are a lot of folks around our communities who are eager to be trained as s-types. They want to be appealing […]

“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.” —Bum Phillips “Discipline” is a very popular, very sexy concept for those of us who […]

Pretty often I see people ask for ideas of things they could do with their submissive, and usually most of the responses […]

“There are two kinds of people in this world: Those who believe there are two kinds of people in this world and […]

I once had a partner who I loved and whose happiness was super important to me. As her lover and her top […]

There’s this seeming paradox in what’s expected of those of us who aspire to dominate. On the one hand, we’re supposed to […]