The Onion of Desire
Do you crave being made to suffer in ways you hate? Do you simultaneously care deeply about your partner’s happiness and want […]
Keeping it Kinky Through a Parade of Catastrophes
The pandemic is dragging on with a million dead, and it’s starting to sink in that “back to normal” isn’t on the […]
Dominant is Not a Species
“Mallard” is a species. A mallard is born a mallard and will be a mallard until it dies, and nothing that was […]
Kink Has Always Been Political
You’ve heard of the Marquis de Sade, right? The guy whose name we use for sadism? You probably know that he wrote […]
The Romance of Restraint
In between all the screaming and begging and cumming, there are deeper lessons available to be learned in the practice of kink. […]
Desirable Men
Over on FetLife, posting sexy pictures is a big deal. Perving all those pictures is the main draw of the site for […]
The Pleasure of Wanting
Do you live in the Bay Area? On November 5 I’ll be teaching Orgasm Denial for Society of Janus. Come join me! […]
If You’re Accused by Someone You’ve Played With, You’re Guilty
If anyone you’ve played with accuses you of mistreating them, you are guilty of playing with them in such a way as […]
I ♥ Consensual Objectification
One of my all time favorite sex toys is the Fleshlight that a partner of mine carries around for me between her […]
Surrender
I bring my hand down hard on the tender upper part of her inner thigh. She gasps and tenses. Her whole body […]