March 11, 2019May 29, 2019Announcement New Book: The Dominance Playbook When I published The Heart of Dominance, I wasn’t sure if anyone other than few friends was going to buy it. Finding […]
December 24, 2018April 5, 2020Essay Kink Shaming, and What It Isn’t The idea of kink shaming as a thing to avoid is a useful concept, and like all useful concepts it can be […]
October 16, 2018May 29, 2019Announcement, Essay How to Find Partners on FetLife Y’all know what FetLife is, right? Big social media site for kinksters? So far as I know it’s the biggest, widest-spread group […]
January 20, 2018May 29, 2019Essay Starting Your Power Exchange Over An excerpt from my upcoming book “Ways to Play With Power,” posted in response to someone in the Novices & Newbies group […]
October 9, 2017May 29, 2019Submissive Skills How to Find a Real Dominant “How can I find a real dominant?” is one of the most common and most urgent questions asked in kink communities all […]
September 1, 2017May 29, 2019Dominant Technique Clarify, Chastise, Ask: How to Deal with Submissive Resistance Resistance, as I’m using the word here, is the frustrating experience of wanting to submit but having a hard time actually letting […]
July 25, 2017May 29, 2019Submissive Skills How to Disagree With Your Dominant So you have a dominant who you feel lucky to get to submit to. You trust them. You respect their judgment. You’re […]
June 17, 2017May 29, 2019Submissive Skills Real Submissive Training There are a lot of folks around our communities who are eager to be trained as s-types. They want to be appealing […]
May 9, 2017May 29, 2019Dominant Technique How to Discipline “The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.” —Bum Phillips “Discipline” is a very popular, very sexy concept for those of us who […]
April 6, 2017March 8, 2022Dominant Technique 12 Things to Do With Your Submissive – Even if They’re Far Away Pretty often I see people ask for ideas of things they could do with their submissive, and usually most of the responses […]